I just realized something. Out of the year and a half I have been blogging, I missed last month's currently! How sad! Maybe I should go back and add August to this post;)
ANYWHO...
It is time to link up with Farley!
This is kinda a personal post. I needed to do it. It is how I have been feeling for quite some time and I hope you all can understand and don't get too upset it's not really a school post!
This is kinda a personal post. I needed to do it. It is how I have been feeling for quite some time and I hope you all can understand and don't get too upset it's not really a school post!
I am listening to the sweet sound of the air conditioner! We have one in our bedroom at my inlaws house! It was so kind of them to add one to the room before we moved in:) I don't have air at work so I soak it up every chance I can. Since hubby is still sleeping, I am sitting at my desk in the peace and quiet enjoying the air!
I really LOVE having today off. I seriously needed this weekend and today! I haven't felt more relaxed since I got here and work started. My hubby and I are heading over to Angelia's house from Extra Special Teaching for a little cookout! It is nice we live SO close to each other...like 10 miles!
It is time to get a new phone...FINALLY! I want an iPhone. What one do I get? I have NO idea. I have the iPad4 and I just love it. I am slowly making my way over to the dark side;)
I really want fall break to get here. I know, school just started but I need a break. This week is short, next week we get out every day at 12:45 for conferences, and then October 7th starts fall break! It is SO close!
I have said it a million times, and I am so sorry for being a broken record. I need to find a way to be less stressed. It is seriously hurting me, my hubby, my family. I have no time to really enjoy living in Hawaii. I have been here for almost 2 months and have YET to get to the beach. I mean, I see it every dang day too! Corrina, Angelia, Courtney...beach date next weekend??? All I feel like I am doing is lesson planning and complaining. I haven't even had time to blog really or make anything for you all since June. This transition moving cross country and to a totally new place has been very hard:( I know back to school is always stressful, but this year it has been the worst. Any ideas on how to help me?
My love yourself spot will hopefully get me started on being less stressed. I need to lose weight...bad. I need to do it for me and only me. My hubby is a good sport about my weight gain but he knows it's not good. We want to have a family but I refuse to get pregnant being overweight. I want to start running again. I will start...tomorrow! I have been SO good about going to the gym before work...yes before work. I get up at 3:45 each day! HAHA! Leave the house by 4:15, at the gym by 5 and work out until 6. Shower and at work by 6:45 and school starts at 7:45. I am just not pushing myself enough at the gym. Tomorrow is the day to start pushing myself! YUP!
With stressing less, coming up with a plan for leaving work at school, I will be able to enjoy my hubby more. I feel like I don't make time for him anymore. This.has.got.to.stop!
So this falls into my giveaway! Leave me a tip, idea, suggestion, something to help me get my life back. I feel like I am lost somewhere and I need some help! I will pick 3 random winners tomorrow night Hawaii time to have anything from my store for free!
I hope you all enjoy your day! Bring on the cookout!
I found you on the Currently linky. Wow - 3:45am!!! That is awesome. I get up at 4:30am each day so I can get my workout in and enjoy the rest of the day. People don't understand how I do it but it is well worth the 30 minutes less of sleep.
ReplyDeleteOne suggestion for you is to keep a journal. Write in it each day at the same exact time. It should relieve some of your stress. I also recommend reading. One of my goals is to read for 20 minutes each day before bedtime. I don't mean school reading either - reading for me. I hope everything works out for you!!
Oh Tonya! I so get the stress of moving to a new place, hard enough to just move into a new house, but across the country (ocean) is so hard. I vowed to find time for a 30 minute walk every day....hasn't really happened. I do think you should try to leave work at work as much as you can but that isn't always easily done either. I think you are making steps in the right direction, here's the other thing schedule a time/day that you will spend together...the world won't stop if you don't get a lesson plan done. You both deserve to have time together after such a big move! Good luck in de stressing friend, and enjoy the beach :)
ReplyDeleteTania
Mrs Poultney's Ponderings
So sorry to hear it isn't quite life in paradise yet...I think you are on the right track with your realization of what isn't working.
ReplyDeleteSet one night aside for 'date night' with your husband and absolutely no work talk allowed.
Another thing I do is alternate days I eat with the other teachers...the rest I work in my room so I get things done. It is nice when everyone else is eating, so no drop-in distractions. And I don't look *too* anti-social since I eat in the lunchroom a couple of times a week.
Good luck, but you are on the right track already!
I don't know if I could get up to work out first thing in the morning...that's dedication! I know that I need to lose a few pounds myself, but I don't know if I could do it that early, ha ha ha.
ReplyDeleteI find that when I am stressed, I just do something that I enjoy...it might be reading or going for a walk.
You don't know me, but I follow your blog. I feel bad that you are stressed. But since you just moved to a new state and are staying with in-laws (as great as they are), those changes alone are stressors. If you are getting up at 3:30, what time are you going to bed? Is lack of sleep hurting you too? You sound like you're being hard on yourself, regarding the gym and weight. I wonder if the weight would come off easier with just walks on the beach with hubby. It would certainly be more fun! I hope I don't sound like a busy-body, but I care. I have you in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteI felt sad for you reading about your stress. I moved away from family and friends last year and it wasn't nearly as drastic as your move, but I really felt the culture shock. I was not prepared. Time is probably the biggest thing and you can't rush that. I hope you get to enjoy the beach soon. I was going to mention the possibility of sleep deprivation... which elevates stress and slows metabolism, making it harder to burn fat and calories. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers this week. I hope you start to feel less stress soon!
ReplyDeleteMusic! I listen to music and that helps me de-stress. I hope things get better soon!
ReplyDeleteTo des tress ... Simply walk on the beach... If your husband is available ask him to join you. Listen to your favorite music , simply sing and dance..... We are all so blessed .... Give your worries to The Lord , he really is a good listener. Praying that you find peace this week.
ReplyDeleteDebbie
Stress gets to us all eventually. You've had so much CHANGE in such a short amount of time. Here's my advice, for what its worth...
ReplyDelete"Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can."
You are already taking steps toward your goals. Focus on those positive things you are doing and add to them a little at a time.
I'll be cheering for you!
Wendy
Read With Me ABC
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ReplyDeleteHi Tonya. I can feel your stress through your blog, and I'm sorry life has been so trying of late. Here's my advice: join Weight Watchers. I joined 6 weeks ago, and I have lost 6 pounds. The program works because: you write down/log in computer what you eat. It's amazing to see how much you are actually eating. What you eat is probably more important than your workout. Plus, you're paying $40/month, and that monthly payment stops when you reach your goal weight. Before I joined WW, I went spinning 4 times/week (I still do this, too), however, I couldn't lose an ounce. That's why I think WW will absolutely help you. Also, stress absolutely makes you gain weight. I wish I could help you more - maybe you could find a yoga class that takes place on the beach - hey, that's the best solution yet! Stress relief & beach = a more calm and peaceful YOU!
ReplyDeleteTonya, I am sorry to hear that you are so stressed and that things haven't quite settled down for you yet. Major props to you girl though for getting up so early and heading to the gym before work! WOW!
ReplyDeleteSo here's my advice--never do schoolwork on Saturdays and Sundays. I know it sounds crazy but a few years ago I realized that I really needed to make more time for my hubby and my kids. So now I only do schoolwork during the week, Monday-Friday, and sometimes that means I stay up til 1 or 2 a.m. on Friday night doing stuff but then I do not do anything at all on Saturday or Sunday except enjoy my family. It is the best thing that I've ever done for myself, my family, and my teaching!
Keep us posted on how you are doing! Praying for you!
Wendy
One Happy Teacher
Hi Tonya,
ReplyDeleteI've been following your blog for a few months now and am just starting to venture into the blogging world! I'm so sorry to hear your days aren't the brightest right now...and I have to say, I'm right there with you. While I don't have a hubby, I'm currently in the process of ending a six year relationship with who I thought was the one. So with the start of school and so many new initiatives and so many awesome blogging and Pinterest ideas...I feel like I'm drowning.
My first tip ( that I'm trying to remember myself) is that I can't do everything! We make our classrooms the best we can for those kids, but it's just impossible to do it all!
Next, I'm really going to try and only allow myself to do ONE or TWO things for school each weekend. The rest is dedicated to things for my house and things for me! Since I am going to need time to heal and move on, I think focusing on myself and not just burying myself in schoolwork is going to be key.
I truly hope your days start looking up and know you're not the only one feeling totally overwhelmed! :)
Christy
Acupcakeformyclassroom. Blogspot
Take some time for yourself and head to the beach. It's so calming, and it will help. Maybe you need to take a few calming moments each day, no matter what.
ReplyDeleteStress feeds stress.
***I apologize that this is so long***
ReplyDeleteHi! I am a big fan and have loved reading your posts. I feel like I am on the journey with you. I am actually on a mental disability leave from teaching right now. The past 14 months have been the hardest time of my 36 year life. Every aspect of my life was suffering and I just couldn't hold myself together anymore. It was a combination of just about everything- past and present! I don't want to bore you with my roller coaster of a life story but as I was reading your post, I felt like I was back in time reliving the start of my downfall. Bare in mind, (is that spelled right? Or is it spelled bear?)that I have been battling depression and anxiety for quite some time. I don't want you to think that I am saying that you will have a breakdown, but wanted to share my experience. You have been through so much the last few months that really are life altering events. Give yourself some credit- take some time to reflect on what you have accomplished rather than what you haven't. As I read about your commitment to be at the gym before work, I saw you as a strong willed and determined woman. Getting up at 3:45 is dedication. I see those same qualities of dedication and commitment in your work as a teacher and as a wife. We are our worst enemy. It's like we are conditioned to see our failures and it keeps us from being able to recognize the positives in our lives. I see a therapist twice a week and I am slowly reshaping myself. I am 36 years old and am now just beginning to see who I really am and working on realizing what I do have to offer this world. I have a quote that is perfect for the journey I am on: I am a work in progress!!
My school is starting the process of becoming a Leader in Me School. I was fortunate enough to attend the training a few weeks back and it changed my life. I am creating a personal mission statement that will help keep me at my best and remind me to make every decision with those ideals and values that are so imperative for me to be at my best. I have a long road ahead of me. I have really great days followed by some real crappy days. But I am hopeful that the great days will soon out number the crappy days. Today was the first day of school for most of us in Michigan. It is killing me to not be there. I am missing a huge important time of the school year. I was in tears the past few days. But, I have to keep in mind that I am where I need to be and I will be back soon enough and will return as a much better teacher.
Finding peace in one's life is not easy. What works best for one person may not work for another. I hope that you will be able to read all of the comments from your followers and will be able to find some things that will help you. Reading, yoga, exercising, walks on the beach, meditation, date night, alone time, dancing, music, being crafty!! I'm getting excited as I type those activities. I am now realizing what life has to offer. I am sure that you will become less stressed as time goes by. It's not going to change overnight. Stay strong for every day you are getting more comfortable in your new surroundings. Don't rush it- take it as a time to learn about yourself. Bask in the opportunity of all of your new adventures.
Just take it one day at a time. Go make a point of walking or running on the beach. You will fill better and you will have great scenery to admire too! The waves should be really calming. You could also make a point of reading on the beach for 20 minutes. Just do something for yourself!
ReplyDeleteMake time for yourself:
ReplyDelete-mani/pedis
-devotions (women's or couples)
-visit a chiropractor
-read for pleasure, not school
Praying for you...
~Sara
Sweetsarabowling@gmail.com